All remarriages are born out of grief. Most “suddenly singles” are bereft and traumatized by having their relational world torn apart. Whether it derives from the death of a spouse or from divorce, a second marriage presents unique challenges. It’s likely neither party considered they’d ever be in this situation. Dunn addresses the pastoral needs of those within the church who are considering dating and remarriage after being widowed or divorced. In Love Again & Making It Work is unique among Christian help resources in that Dunn addresses the reality and theology of divorce and a second marriage. “God only desires good marriages,” he writes. “Marriage is meant to help husband, wife and all children become all that God intended for them to be. …What we often fail to understand is that God not only hates divorce, God also hates a marriage that is not fulfilling its purpose. Neither divorce or a bad marriage is the will of God.” Up-to-date and practical information is included: using internet dating services to meet someone, the dynamics of blended families with children, prenuptial agreements and merged finances, where to live, and communicating with the former spouse. This is a revision of Dunn’s previous (now out of print) Discipleship Resources’ title, Preparing to Marry Again. In Love Again & Making It Work includes a short guide for learning and conversation in groups.
Dick Dunn has been a minister for over 40 years, working full-time with singles and stepfamilies since 1980. Under Dick’s direction, the singles and stepfamilies ministry at Roswell United Methodist Church became one of the largest such ministries in the United States, serving over 2,000 people each year involved in 22 different groups meeting on a regular basis. He is the author of Launching and Sustaining Successful Singles Ministry, Willing To Try Again: Steps Toward Blending a Family, Single and Growing, Developing a Successful Stepfamily Ministry, New Faces In the Frame, and Journey Through Singleness.